Who gives who, who spends more?

Money, money, money. A song went like “love is sweet, when money enter love is sweeter.” Money is or has become the foundation of any lasting relationship. Love conquers all, except financial problems. You cannot pay your bills with love. That is why it is important for couples to be partners in every area of their relationship, including financially.

To build a healthy relationship means shared responsibilities. The duty of provision for the progress and obvious enjoyment of a relationship is dependent on both parties. It is not for one person to handle or for one person to take charge of.
Society has charged the man to take care of any and every responsibility in the relationship and that does not depict equality in the relationship. A relationship is between two people, so the responsibilities should be shared equally.
Women has been stereotyped for not taking up any responsibility in any relationship and most of them are confidently living up to this stereotype.
You can’t be an adult, in a relationship where you just have to be taken care of like an orphaned child. As a adult, you have to bear a certain level of responsibility in the relationship. You have to share in the needs of the relationship and you have to build with your partner.

This is not to say, that men or women who choose to bear the responsibilities of their relationship solely are being cheated or losing out. But life needs balance and relationships deserve equal effort from both parties, and if as a person you don’t provide any help to tipping the scale, then you cannot advocate for equal rights and recognition in that relationship.


Moreso, you have nothing to offer in a relationship except yourself, you are exposing yourself to disrespect and disregard from your partner, as some partners see it as an avenue to become abusive, since you’ve made the sole provider of all your needs.

But still in relationships where there is absolute love and respect, and financial equality between the couple, financial capabilities and responsibilities are not regarded as a problem.

Who gives who, who spends more?
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